affairs

y do pple haf affairs? i rem last yr, i was blown away by e news dat my gd fren had an affair wif my other gd fren, n his gf was another fren of mine too... thank God everythin is ok now...

then i heard abt another affair in my office... involving pple i noe... as in they r my frens... of cos they duno dat i noe... but after e 1st incident last yr, this didnt impact me dat much...

now there is another affair dat i noe of... involvin family... but of cos this extended family of mine alwayz has affairs n its common... but this family of mine is v close to my heart... it pained me like mad when i knew of it...

wat e heck man??? wat is goin on in this sinful world???

yes we r all sinners. no sin is greater than e other. God didnt sae onli pple who haf affairs go to hell. neither did He sae dat onli if u haf affairs then u haf sinned. so who m i to judge. so i m not judgin here. i do not judge u who had an affair. i juz feel sad. n of cos i will never noe y u did it. n maybe u duno too. n since u dun wana tell me ur story, i respect it. n u might b obessed wif ur new found person dat u stop readin my blog too. but nmind. i wish u would read this one dae...

pple who haf affairs, r they selfish? cos they forsake e rship dat they haf built fer so long... incidentally e 3 affairs dat i mentioned, they all r rships dat r at least 10 yrs... they destroy not onli e trust dat has been built over e yrs wif their partner, but wif their family n frens whom treasure em. but its their life rite? they live as they wan to. true. but as close family/frens, can we speak into their lives n shine a lite into their confused/dark path?

u might sae: who saes e path is dark n e person is confused? maybe this is e best decision they haf made in their entire life! but then, y muz a person jump from 1 rship, wif all e baggages, n enter head-on into another one? is it a logical n clearly-reasoned decision? y cant they end e current rship properly, haf some time alone to c wat they truly wan in life? then make an informed decision abt wat they wan to c in their future partner? cos they treat e new found partner as a life-buoy?

ok it takes 2 hands to clap. u might b deprived of somethin from ur other rship, e other party might haf drugged u n when u woke up, u were in bed wif e person... blah blah... who noes n who cares... cos in e end u alreadi decided. n even God gave us free will, so who is anyone to tell u wat to decide?

juz dat humans r creatures who live in a community. we make decisions. but we muz alwayz rem dat our decisions impact pple. do we go arnd makin decisions dat onli make ourselves feel hapi n forget abt e whole world? ya i guess u can sae 'of cos! i need to live hapi wat... cant b i sacrifice myself fer e world wat!!'

ok then gd fer u if u can live like a hermit wif ur partner. or maybe u will haf frens. but ur frens would b those who think e same as u. haf e same values as u. y we cant accept it is cos we love u n dun wana c u go down this path. e path of viewin ur world as onli urself n wif no one else. r u truly hapi like this? avoidin e whole world? how long can u avoid us?

i still love u as family. i will still b there fer u. but i find it hard to accept ur partner which u chose. maybe time will heal all wounds. but u noe wat, if ur partner can do this wif u, wat does it sae abt ur partner's character? or r u wif ur partner cos ur partner reminds u of somethin u wan so badly? or cos ur partner helps u avoid commitment n settlin down? or cos ur partner represents freedom? then 10 yrs down e road, when ur partner wans commitment n cant go to e place u so desire, would u still wana b wif this person?

actually i think im utterin total rubbish. but who can think logically in such situations? even i, an outsider cant, can u? please dun use ur partner to avoid ur situation. wat is it dat u love abt this person? maybe one dae we can c how wonderful ur partner is. maybe ur partner is reali fantastic. but where was e first committment u had wif ur ex? can love die juz lidat? then one dae ur partner might juz run to another person cos dat person has beta qualifications/more money/more free-spirited/etc than u... n u haf e choice to desert ur partner anytime cos when u entered into a rship wif this person, u broke e commitment u had wif ur current partner.

nevertheless, fer ur own gd, juz bring it out to e lite n intro ur partner to everyone if dat is wat u decided. wat goes on in e dark is never gd. hiding things would onli encourage more darkness n confusion... bringing it to lite can help us support u... of cos u will think nobody will support u after i sae until lidat rite... aiyah... will support u as an individual still la... e rship, we duno anythin so cant comment...

ok i said enuff. thanks to u all who even read till here. juz some food fer thought fer us i guess... n do love n stay committed to ur partner dat u r wif or will b wif... i will b prayin fer u...