Monday, May 26, 2008

yes yes, another thing ticked off!!!

cynthia mentioned before that i always come back from the weekend with something that i bought... so very true... almost every weekend, vin and i are working hard to try to tick off things from our wedding preparations list... this weekend, we finally got my '4 gold' a.k.a. si dian jing!!!

ok la actually it is not 4 and it is not gold... traditional chinese custom for 4 gold is:
1) the ring
2) the earrings
3) the necklace
4) the bracelet

in modern day culture, most people get 4 diamonds instead (a.k.a. si dian zhuan) as this is something they will wear. the purpose for the in-laws to give their daughter-in-law 4 gold is to show that they accept her into the family and also for her to have something to sell for money, in case there is a day when her husband decides to divorce her. in olden times, women have no money. they marry into the family to take care of the house and that is it. so the 4 gold is always a comfort for her that in times when she needs it, she has ready cash.

but in our context, modern women have money, so we won't sell our keepsake. neither do we marry with the intention that we might have a divorce, so diamonds are a better choice, cos we can wear them!!! gold was the fashion in the past but now diamonds are a girl's best friend!!!!! hahaha never thought i would say this actually... in fact, i used to dislike diamonds to the max in the past cos i never understood why a stone that is essentially carbon, can cost so much. i thought it was irrational behavior but after looking at diamonds for so long, i must say, they are so beautiful!!!!!

that said, i still wont spend money to buy a diamond for myself hahaha... maybe on our 25 year anniversary, vin can buy me diamond la hahaha... but think no point la. already got all that i need/want liao... =)))

oh oh and why is it not 4 - cos vin already got me a ring for engagement and chinese tradition is for things to be in even numbers, so vin's dad got me the earrings and bracelet (2 pieces) so my mum got me a necklace as a gift!!! i love them and vin and i got them at a great deal as well!!!!! praise the Lord!!!!!

now we are busy with our guest list... do rsvp to us asap k? hee... thanks so much!!!!! when we have our final numbers then can confirm the catering for church reception and banquet dinner ^_^ so looking forward to our big day!!!!! it's going to be so fun and wonderful!!!!!